Get rid of the limiting idea that you either have it or you don’t.
The idea of cultivating confidence sometimes gets a bad rap, because it often implies that we need to “fake it ’til we make it” (and for most of us that doesn’t ring true) or that being confident equals never being nervous again (which is also not true or remotely human).
Those are two of the myths we can be tempted to buy into. After working with many accomplished women, I’d say these are the other top three that I would also like to bust.
Myth 1: You can think your way into it.
You need more than an inspirational Instagram quote. They’re great and I’m a fan but confidence is a feeling, right? You feel in your brain and body. So, to really feel and project a confident presence, you need both your mind and body working together. If your shoulders are clenched from stress, low self-esteem or from hunching over a computer, your mind will feel clenched and you’ll have small and low energy, making it tough to hang on to a motivational quote.
However, if your body is aligned in a way that you can breathe easier and you unstick long-held stress, you’ll release “feel-good hormones” like dopamine and oxytocin to your brain letting it know that all is good. Instead of restricted and small, your brain will be opened up to creative possibilities and you can feel the motivation, inspiration and strategy in both the body and mind which doubles the power.